So today I got to babysit for a pretty needy kid. He’s had a really rough life and…well I don’t feel like ranting on parenting right now, this blog isn’t about that. But it was an awesome experience.
So I took Christopher to the park. It’s fun, it’s outdoorsy, and it’s a chance to improve his motor skills.
There was a young woman (I thought like…23ish) and a 2-year-old boy playing there. Well the boys hit it off so she and I just started talking as well.
So she says “Babysitting?”
And I’m all “Yeah!”
And she was all “Sophomore?”
“haha, no, I’m a senior.”
“Really?! You don’t look it! You’re so little!” (haha, wow, how many times have I heard THAT one? LOL….okay only three times.)
“Haha, yeah, no one thinks I am.”
*she looks away at the boys, shades her eyes from the sun, and matter of factly says* “Don’t have sex. It’s not worth it.”
“Oh, don’t worry.”
Somehow she told me, this kid is her son. She’s 18.
My heart broke for her. I cherished her honesty, her ability to admit that what she did was stupid. Her ability to share her mistakes in hopes to save another girl from pain. I was blown away.
She also asked me if I had a boyfriend. “Nope…!” I answered, unsure what spin to put in my voice from the obvious struggles in my heart.
“Good. Keep it that way for a while.”
That made me smile. It was like God was just telling me to not worry. I love the way He did it too. Through a humble, 18-year-old mother.
Her story has a happy ending however. She found a guy who is working 2 jobs to let her stay home with her son Connor. She’s going to school until 10PM and doing homework till midnight to get her paralegal degree, and waking up at 4:30 with her son. I didn’t want to press her, but you could tell she was full of regret. But she loved her son more fully than some married mothers do. It was a sweet scene to watch. It was hard for me to keep in mind that she was less than a year older than I…and so much of her life had been drastically altered. All because she didn’t….wait, and trust.
I am so thankful for her testimony. I hope she shares it with a lot of girls. She’s engaged, and I am so happy for her. I’ll never forget her, and she is so on my list of people to pray for. I’m so thankful she had a happier ending than the average teen pregnancy story.
So, just wait. You’ll be so happy you did.